When should we stop?

Someday at a corner in a busiest-intersection-located mall in jakarta, I was involved with an unintentional after-lunch conversation with my fiance. The chit-chat started somehow with her comments about people’s wrong prejudices toward true love. Both of us have propensity to consider that our current lovers are the last stop, the only person whom we engrave our future into. Hence we thought that our current lovers are the right person to get our greatest feelings of all.

Regardless those hyperboles, obviously they are not the last one. Later on, there are some successors who, in their turn, get the same exagerated emotions from us.

Then a big questionmark popped out in our minds, when would that endless and cycling senses arrive in a true destination?

Without further consideration, we suddenly answered: of course you honey!

a. You’re different

b. You don’t look like my untidy ex girlfriend, you are better.

c. You don’t sound like my snoring ex boyfriend.

d. You are the best I’ve ever had. Bla..bla..bla…

e. Now is the happiest period in my life, I’ve never felt this way before.

Surprisingly, my fiance came with her brilliant idea about the degree of feelings. She perfectly told me that we are on charge to value about “is she/he the last one?”. We could verbaly state that our curent lovers are the final, but our heart have the most genuine parameter to perfectly express our undercovered truth of love.

She continued by saying these:

a. When you can’t say even a “no” in front of him/her,

b. When he/she hurts you and you don’t even think to hurt him/her back,

c. When you have no any capability of getting angry to him/her.

It does mean that your love degree is in a peak, and you are better considering to stop at this point, make up your mind, before it becomes antiklimaks which in the end you would sorry for the rest of your life.

Ratu Lanang Sejagat